Mommy Is Psycho

Sent this to several close friends in an email?

I'm doing better now. Been having some childhood memories, my therapist says they were flashbacks. But I'm feeling so much better now as it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

However...

On Tues I had a helluva day: I had a migraine and a retarded day on the phones.... And then.... My mind was going to turn to goo. I got a totally fucked up call from mom... She says that if I move out of the house (as we are planning to move when we find a house to buy, but we haven't yet), then income tax on the house will raise for us for 30% - but we never pay income taxes, she does. She said that it would benefit David and I if we stayed in this house until we moved out so that income tax didn’t rise 30%. She went on to say that if we did sell before moving out that we would somehow benefit from the money involved.Apparently if we stay we will get some of this money. And we can gift some of the money back to her then it LOOKS like we got the money and gave her back some…?? But it sounds like a really crappy attempt at a bribe to keep us from moving out when we bloody well want to.I asked her at this point, didn’t I sign papers to take my name off the house? She said no, what I signed was if I died she and dad would get the house. And then she said she wasn’t entirely sure, so she was going to check with the ‘tax people’ about the whole thing.But in the meantime we’d need to consider moving some of our furniture into the basement, to make our house look more spacious so people coming to see the house will be more likely to buy it.I said at this point, please find out about the taxes first, and then we’ll go on to the next step.This is, of course, planned by her just before they go on vacation to BC.I had a meeting with my therapist on Wed, thank gosh he squeezed me in. Which is why I'm feeling better about it.If I didn't laugh hysterically I'd cry hysterically.

lol I was wondering what you thought of this email that I am planning to send to mom &dad in a week or two.

Do you think it is respectful?
Does it come across as ungrateful or vindictive/threatening?
Do you think there is anything I should add or remove to make it a better email?

-Holly-

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Dear mom and dad,

As per our conversation on Tuesday, Aug 12, 2008;

David and I both agree that we do not wish to have any money acquired from the sale of this house on 2237 Edward Street. We will even sign a contract with you stating this if you like.

We want one of two things to happen:

A) to take my name off the house;

or

B) to have you and dad sign a contract that states David and I will not be charged for income tax, fees or anything related to the house, for moving out if we buy another house; and that you both will be responsible for the income tax if we are charged for it.

My name is on the house and I don't like being on the title. When I was signing that contract (which you told me on Tuesday was for if I passed away the house would go to you and dad), I thought it was to remove my name off the house. We have been paying you cash for rent every month, which I assume is so that you don't have to report the income earned.

On the other hand, we do not like being in the position that someone can tell us we have to move our furniture to the basement or wait until it is convenient for the person we are giving rent to for us to move out. If we find a house we want to move into, we want to move out when it is convenient for us.

There are several health reasons I wish to get out of the house. One is that there is black mold which is consistently covered up when it comes through the walls or ceiling, but is never thoroughly removed (so it grows back). Another is the unfinished basement below is hard to keep clean and free of mildew and dust.

The main reason we want to move out of the house, however, is because of our relationship. I feel like there have been several times where my relationship to you as a tenant and daughter has been abused. For instance, even though it took you over a year to fix the porch and the bathroom, your own daughter, who has allergies and asthma, didn't complain to the Rentalsman. I was perplexed that even though I brought it up several times, you, my own mother, did not immediately fix at least the bathroom which was full of black mold and used daily. The porch also had mold in it and was falling down. It seemed interesting to me that it was the time when Joline was coming down to visit that you finally decided to take action. After that I was reluctant to report even minor issues because I figured you wouldn't listen to me or wouldn't care anyway.

When David and I move out, I hope our relationship will improve, because then I won't feel hostage to being somewhere between a dutiful daughter, who is expected to be obedient and respectful to my mother, and a tenant who pays rent, who if I wasn't your daughter, would have reported health issues and possibly revenue information long ago.

Thank you for reading this over carefully.

-Holly Freeman-